Sleeping on Japanese futons

Something that I don’t reveal to many people is the fact that my husband and I sleep on Japanese futon’s. Technically called Shikibuton or traditional Japanese futon’s, they are becoming quite popular within the extreme minimalist community.

Why choose to sleep on Japanese futon’s or floor sleeping?

There are different reasons for choosing to sleep on futons or other styles of floor sleeping but I will share some of the benefits and reasons for us and also some of the down-sides of sleeping on the floor. Firstly I have found that my back and pelvic alignment has improved with sleeping on a firmer surface. This may be achieved on a traditional firm mattress but we have found that you can customise a Japanese futon quite easily by adding a pad underneath or topper if it doesn’t feel soft enough. We have wood flooring so having a thin foam topper underneath gives just the right cushioning for the firm cotton futon.

Free’s up space

The Japanese futon is great for minimalists or those who want to maximise space. In our current home this is not a necessity but I know it would have been helpful to have these in previous homes we have lived in where space was at a premium. Being able to fold or roll them up during the day means you can use the floor space in a room for dual purposes. At the moment I use that space for exercise.

Easy to move

When we moved interstate 3 years ago we didn’t bring our old bulky mattress but sold it and brought along our single futon mattresses that we had acquired a few months before. This was obviously much easier than moving a traditional mattress and bed base as well as the space saving as we had to fit all of our belongings in a small trailer. Our oldest daughter had an air mattresses as a temporary bed and we had a toddler sized futon for our toddler. It was super easy to set up our bedrooms.

Eco-friendly option

Depending on the type of futon you buy, it can be a good eco-friendly option if you choose a cotton fill or another natural material. A lot of traditional mattresses have springs, fire-retardants or other toxic chemicals added to the foam core or materials used to construct the mattress. Eco mattresses can be quite expensive so a futon or something similar is a nice healthy alternative.

More hygienic

Some may argue that sleeping on the floor or putting a mattress on the floor is un-hygienic. However I have found it to be far more hygienic since there is no dust accumulating underneath and the Japanese futons are light enough to take outside to air on a regular basis so that the sun can sanitise the mattress and prevent dust mites. The futons smell fresh and I wash the covers each week along with the fitted sheet. The floor underneath gets wiped cleaned. Our room is now quite dust-free and easy to clean. On the contrast a traditional mattress accumulates dust, damp and other nasties even if you use a mattress protector.

Closer to the ground

A positive to sleeping close to the floor is that you need to get up from the floor! This has helped us to be more flexible and build strength as it takes more effort getting up and down. This could be a pro or con depending on your health and ability. I doubt I could have done this during pregnancy for example but I know others who were fine with it. Also some have found that the floor sleeping experience has felt grounding (literally). They find it a more comfortable experience sleeping closer to the ground especially those who sleep directly on the floor with maybe just a thin pad or sheet underneath. (I’m not there yet!).

Kid friendly

Most families who try this say that their children naturally love floor sleeping. I have noticed that too. Another benefit is that you don’t need to worry about younger children falling off of the bed so it’s a great way for children to transition to sleeping alone. They seem to find floor sleeping fun and kind of like camping! I was first introduced to floor sleeping a decade ago because of the Montessori approach I was using for our first child. It made a lot of sense and so we gave it a try.

Aesthetically pleasing

Okay well this is a case of personal preference! Many extreme minimalists like myself find it to be a beautifully calm and visually appealing aesthetic. Something about not have a bulky frame or headboard dominating the room makes for a pleasant and minimal bedroom appearance. Of course it’s not for everyone and that’s fine but if you like that minimal look then floor sleeping could be for you!

Now for the cons…

There are not too many negatives to floor sleeping in my opinion but I will still share my experience as something to think about when deciding if floor sleeping is for you or not.

Our beds are not always ready to jump into!

During the day I fold our futons up and move them to the wall and take our the toppers from underneath. I fold our quilt and move it aside too. This means more work in the morning and also more work at night to prepare for bed. I’ve gotten more efficient at this but it can sometimes be annoying to have to do. If we didn’t have toppers underneath I think it would be easier.

Our room can look messy

This may surprise you but our room can look messy due to the bedding sitting on the side of the room and our toppers against a chair. The futons themselves are totally fine folded or left laying flat but otherwise you may want to have a cupboard to store away the bedding and pillows at least to give the room a neater appearance. The Japanese have special cupboards to store the futons and bedding so this would make more sense and look a lot better. I still love the look of the futons though!

Potential for mold

As mentioned above, futon’s are very hygienic but only if you look after them. Depending on your climate, there is a potential for mold if left on the floor. Obviously this is not hygienic nor healthy! So airing regularly is a must. I get them out in the sun twice a week or fold them up most days so that they are off the floor. We have single futons so they are light.

There is a transition period

Depending on what type of bed you are used to, there will be a transition period. For us it didn’t take too long as we had been sleeping on a western futon prior to the Japanese futon. Our previous futon was on a base and then we switched over the the Japanese futons which need to go on a flat surface. It took about a week for us but then we also had a thin topper underneath as the wood floor meant no cushioning and this combination worked well for us. Others say it took up to a month but then felt really good. It’s good to be prepared for a little discomfort in the beginning.

People may think your weird

Floor sleeping is not something I often share with others unless it’s with my minimalist community. Some friends or family that know about it, think it kind of strange and un-neccesary. As always I don’t let that deter me as it works for us. Extreme minimalism isn’t for everyone and I’m okay with that:)

There may be other negatives but these are the only ones I have had. Overall they are a wonderful minimalist sleeping option and even better if you are able to floor sleep without any mattress at all. Now when I go away and sleep on a ‘normal’ bed I find them pretty uncomfortable upon waking as my back doesn’t like the softness. I look forward to my cosy floor bed which feels like a cocoon:)

Hopefully this post has given you a little food for thought when it comes to floor or futon sleeping. Sweet dreams!

Declutter your fantasy self to let go of more things

In this post I want to share my recent experience with decluttering my fantasy self in hopes that you also will declutter your fantasy self to let go of more things…

Lately I have felt disappointed about the amount of stuff I’ve been selling and donating. I had accumulated a lot over these past months and I needed to look at why?

Over a year ago we moved from Sydney to Tasmania with very little. Our previous home wasn’t very big and I had kept it very minimal for a family of 4. Prior to moving I let go of even more. We all did.

What changed?

Not long after our arrival in Tasmania I caught a vision for homesteading and self-sufficiency. (Not the first time). Something about being in a Country cottage in a small town with new found homesteading friends had ignited a past desire for this lifestyle. Suddenly I needed sewing supplies and fabric to make our own skirts and dresses. Canning equipment to preserve all of our leftover harvest. Chickens and all that go with them! Craft paper for homemade cards, candle making kit and more! Oh and pretty vintage items to decorate the home. Much of this was found at thrift stores or marketplace. (Not the chickens)!

Just typing this out makes me sigh…

Much of what I was trying to do was stressing me out and the stuff around me was sending unwanted messages such as ‘you need to finish me!’

You see, I’m a homeschooling Mother of an 11yr old and have a 3yr old. This is not the right season for me to be learning new skills and seeking to be self-sufficient on my own. In my free time I want to do things such as read and write. Make some simple home-made recipes that support my low-waste life-style. Spend time outside in nature with my family. Sit and mend some worn-out items. Pursue living with less.

A minimalist can still have hobbies & interests

It’s not that being a minimalist, or even an extreme minimalist means that we cannot have hobbies or items that go with them. That is not the problem. The problem is when what we are pursuing is not really who we are. Not what our true desire is. We have an image in our mind of what we think we ‘ought to be’. It may be a good image or desire but for whatever reason it is not right for us. At least not at this time. We need to declutter our fantasy self.

The problem is when what we are pursuing is not really who we are.

My experience with trying to do all of these new things and learning new skills and buying more stuff was that it was making me very stressed and unhappy. It was also taking away from the important things I needed to be focusing on. As I mentioned, the stuff was sending me unwanted messages which left me feeling disappointed and overwhelmed. I wondered how others were able to do these things but I wasn’t? Was I not capable? I felt guilty that I wasn’t living up to my homemaker ‘image’

Slowly I began to see that I was being totally unreasonable with myself and that in reality I did not need to do these things. It wasn’t the real me. It was my fantasy self!

Letting go of some of these items felt like I was giving up on a dream, a possibility. Like somehow I had failed because I should have persevered and tried to make the time to do these things. But when I slowed down and thought about my priorities, I realised that these things were not. I also really missed my organised minimalist home. Something I truly value.

So how do we know who the true self is opposed to the fantasy self?

This is really what we need to figure out so that we can let go of the burden of the fantasy self. I mentioned about thinking about my priorities. This was key for me. We cannot do it all and we shouldn’t try to. We can ask ourselves a few things to find out who we are and what we want.

-What are your 5-7 top priorities in life right now?

-Which hobbies, interests or activities do you really enjoy? (Not feel obligated to do).

-Is the image or idea you are imagining realistic in this season of life?

-Going back to priorities, is this activity or object important enough to keep in your life? Is it what I value most?

I want to share my current list in the hope that it will help you with yours.

My top values and priorities right now in no particular order:

-Raising my children well (focusing on homeschool, time & attention).

-Having a clean, tidy and orderly home

-Spending time reading the bible & prayer time

-Eating healthy

-Spending some time writing

These are the main things at the moment.

Declutter your fantasy self

If I hold on to my fantasy self I will not have time for who I really am and what is important to me right now. My fantasy self is growing all of our food and has transformed our entire backyard to feed our family. The real me does not want to have a full-time job growing and tending to a huge garden. I wouldn’t be able to do anything else and I wouldn’t even enjoy it. So instead I am going to keep growing a few herbs, veggies and flowers in my contained veggie patches that I can easily maintain and enjoy.

My fantasy self has a beautifully decorated farmhouse filled with home-made or vintage treasures. The real me does not like visual clutter or want to dust around the decor items or spend time changing things around. Whenever I buy things for the home I immediately regret it. I can still have a beautiful minimalist home that is easy to maintain and has a few special items hand-made by my daughters.

Finding freedom

As I release the items attached to my fantasy self, I feel relief. A burden has been lifted to be someone I’m not. I feel free again to pursue the things I truly enjoy and value. My home is again free from most of the clutter. My almost extreme minimalist goals are within reach which helps me to have clarity again. Clutter affects our mind and emotions and clutter can be anything that you don’t truly need or want.

If you declutter your fantasy self you will be free to embrace the real you!

I have let go of my fantasy self and it feels wonderfully freeing to just be me.

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Pursuing extreme minimalism

For awhile now, I have been exploring and contemplating pursuing extreme minimalism. What does it look like compared to my current minimalist lifestyle and is it worth pursuing?

To my surprise I have found that in many areas of my life I am already what some would consider quite ‘extreme’. Yet if you looked around our home you may find it to be simple and perhaps a typical minimalist aesthetic with a lot of white, some bare walls and clear surfaces. The difference is probably within my personal items vs our family spaces. We are a family of 4 and so there are toys, books, paperwork, homeschooling supplies and my husband’s tech and gadgets. In regards to my own belongings I am quite minimal and realising more and more that I really don’t need a lot to be content. Hence my interest in pursuing extreme minimalism.

Naturally minimalist

I may not have written much about my minimalist journey from earlier in my life but I have always lived very frugally and lightly. Looking back to my life prior to getting married, I had my own room at home and it never occurred to me that it was minimalist or that my lifestyle was minimalist, simple or frugal. I guess it was not a popular lifestyle back then! My room was a cream colour, with no pictures on the walls. A frameless bed, a set of drawers with nothing much on top of it and nothing much inside as I had a built in closet as this home. Clothes were few and I barely thought about buying stuff. My only weakness would have been books since there was a Christian bookstore next to my work at the time. Prior to that I went to the library.

Fast forward to marriage and our first daughter, I had an intense longing for living with less and I still do today. There is no reason that one needs to accumulate more than necessary if that is their desire and it does not affect those around them. Of course there will be an ebb and flow as we pass through different seasons of life and that’s okay. The more I look at extreme minimalism or as some might call it ‘essentialism’, I am realising how freeing it is. While minimalism offers many benefits, to me, extreme minimalism offers even more.

Rather than just decluttering and getting rid of the excess, I am able to consider and re-define what is actually necessary for me to be content. That most likely won’t make sense to others but again, that’s okay.

Some questions I ask as I work on pairing down:

-If I moved would I want to take this with me?

-Do I use this item on a daily/weekly basis?

-Would I buy this again?

-Could I live without this?

-Do I want to look after this item, ie; manage it?

-What is the message this item is telling me? (From Fumio Sasaki of ‘Goodbye things’.

-Is one enough?

Also I keep this verse in mind when I am reducing items.

For we brought nothing into this world, a]and it is certain we can carry nothing out. And having food and clothing, with these we shall be content. 1. Timothy 6:7-8

Let’s take a look at each question:

If I moved would I take this item with me?

If I am questioning whether I would be willing to pack an item and take it with me on a move, then chances are I don’t really need the item now. It’s unlikely to be a necessity or hold much value hence I would be hesitant to take it with me so it may be something to let go of. Early last year we moved interstate after 10 years in the same home. It really helped me to go that bit further in my minimalist journey only keeping which I really needed or cherished.

Do I use this item on a daily/weekly basis?

Depending on the category or room, I like to set boundaries on deciding what stays and goes. I.e, In the kitchen an item needs to be used at a weekly minimum. I don’t keep occasional kitchen items as it’s just not worth the space. I can always borrow a one-off type item if I need it. Toiletries or skincare must be used daily except for more seasonal things like sunscreen. Setting a limit by how often an item is used means that most of my items are used regularly so there is no clutter or stagnant stuff hanging around.

Would I buy this again?

Sometimes we are given or acquire an item that we only kind of like or use. Asking ourselves whether we would be willing to buy an item again helps us to realise how important an item is or not. That usually helps ease any anxiety with letting it go.

Could I live without this?

One of my favourite decluttering questions! Since I am seeking to live with only the things I truly want or need, then asking if I could live without this really helps define if it’s a want, a need or just clutter. Also an item may be a want but if I could happily or comfortably go without an item then why not just let it go. It’s amazing how little we need to be content.

Do I want to look after this item, ie; manage it?

Another good question to ask. Seeking a more simple and meaningful life means we need to let go of the things that are taking us away from that. Managing and taking care of items we rarely use is such a waste of our precious time and maybe money. There is an idea about viewing our stuff within our home as inventory. The less inventory you have to manage, the easier life will be. This begs the question,

Do you own your stuff, or does your stuff own you?

What is the message this item is telling me? (From Fumio Sasaki of ‘Goodbye things’.

According to Fumio Sasaki of ‘Goodbye things’, our stuff is sending us messages. As I looked around my own home I really understood what he was saying. Un-read books said, “you need to read me”. Clothing-“you need to fix me, you haven’t worn me”. Craft and unfinished projects cried, “Im still waiting to be finished!” And on and on!

What if the items in our home were more kind to us? Or we only kept what supported our life and served us right where we are? Maybe right now isn’t the season to be trying new hobbies or learning new skills. Those books sitting on our shelf waiting to be read probably weren’t read because there was something about them we just didn’t like?

We tend to feel guilty for not tending to the many items we intended on completing or caring for. The reality is that we are not meant to be thinking about and dealing with so many material objects. We need to let a lot of it go.

Is one enough?

Marketing tells us if one is good, more is better. Is that really true? For most items, have one good quality piece is well and truly enough. Choosing quality over quantity can be a wonderful benefit of being minimalist. I find it truly satisfying to use an item to it’s full capacity and then replace it. This usually takes years. I’m still working on this but it is my goal to have only one of most things.

Finally as I reflect upon the above verse from 1 Timothy 6:7-8, I have these thoughts,

For we brought nothing into this world, a]and it is certain we can carry nothing out. And having food and clothing, with these we shall be content. 1. Timothy 6:7-8

Holding onto useless possessions only hinders our life journey and possibly eternity. This verse seems quite extreme, ‘having food and clothing, with these we shall be content. I view material items as tools to be used in this life, remembering that we cannot take them with us at the end. What tools we need will differ from person to person and within the various seasons we are in. I continue to find that I need very little personal belongings to be content and perhaps a bit more to care for my family.

Pursuing extreme minimalism is truly freeing. To let go of the excess, the surplus, the non-essentials. To find the balance of enough.

I hope this post inspires you and gives you the courage to let go of more and enjoy living with less.

5 ways to live simply and frugally as a homemaker

As a homeschooling homemaker living in the suburbs of a big city, I am always learning new ways to live more simply and frugally. I have found that adopting a simple life often means you will naturally save money since a big part of living simply involves re-using what you already have. 

Sometimes it can be tricky as saving time can become the priority over saving money. This is why a slower way of living tends to go hand in hand with living simply. However you don’t need to change everything in your life to live simply or frugally as making small changes can bring much contentment and peace. 

Here are some ways that I live simply and frugally as a Homemaker.

  1. Reusables: Instead of disposable items try reusables such as cloth nappies. I know this may seem like a burden if you haven’t had success with them previously. With our first baby I tried it and it seemed to complicated and they leaked as I didn’t know the tips and tricks to make it work so I gave up. Second time around I did more research and planning and they work really well although I don’t use them at night and if my hubby changes the baby he uses disposables. Still, this saves us quite a bit of money on a weekly basis as well as less waste.

2.   Buy used: Again this doesn’t necessarily sound appealing but I have done this my entire life so it comes naturally to me. Charity stores, eBay, garage sales and Facebook marketplace depending on the item. It does take time and patience but that is the beauty of living simply and having time to wait. I plan in advance what clothing or goods I will need for the next season and start looking early.

3.  Repurpose everything!: This is where my minimalist side and my frugal side collide a little. I want to get rid of excess stuff but see the potential to repurpose. Sometimes it’s a balancing act of knowing what you will actually use. Clothing to cleaning rags are a favourite but there is so much that can be re-used. I think repairing items has become a lost art;)

4.  Cut down on takeaway or eating out: if you are a homemaker then you probably cook a lot from scratch already. As a family we like to eat out sometimes but like most things it is about balance.

5. Reduce wants: the most effective way to live simply and frugally is to be content with what you already have. Not desiring to keep up with trends and not coveting what others have will mean that you live more simply and frugally without trying. Evaluating what you really need is important also. You may think you need certain subscriptions or to update technology but maybe you don’t. 

There are a lot of smaller ways that you can save money by living simply but these are the main areas I have seen a difference. They are really just ways that people in the past used to do things. I have found a lot of satisfaction and fulfilment by living more simply and finding ways to save money. To live within our means and not have debt is very freeing. Living simply is a more relaxed way of life. Not that I’m not busy! It’s just that I’m busy within the home doing things at my own pace:)

What ways do you live simply and frugally?

  • Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”Hebrews 13:5

Give your stuff a new life, bless someone in the process

Motivation to let go

Sometimes it’s difficult to find motivation to let go of the items that we know we don’t need or use any more. We may pull an item out from a drawer or closet and think, ‘maybe one day I’l need this’. Or this was a really special gift I received from so and so. Perhaps you can see the beauty in something although you don’t exactly know what to do with it or where to display it. I’ve been there! In fact I go through this on a regular basis. Even after being minimalist for around 8 years, I still question certain things and then put them back. Only to revisit the item again asking the same questions!

A new season

Different seasons in life mean that we sometimes accumulate things that are necessary for only a certain period of time. Having a baby, a new hobby, a business, (fill in the blank).  The problem comes when we don’t recognise that that season is over and we no longer need to hang on to those related items, unless of course you know that you will re-use them again soon, ie: passing down kids clothing to the next child or re-using maternity wear etc. Most of the time though, we WON’T need those items. The season has passed and it’s time to move on to the next season. If we fail to recognise this and store away those ‘extras’ or ‘maybe items’, we can end up feeling burdened. For out of site, is not always out of mind! In fact every time you happen to come across those un-used items, (think, un-finished projects, unwanted ornaments or unworn clothing with tags still on). Guilty:( . You don’t feel good. It is that nagging reminder that you haven’t completed what you started or that you haven’t used that item as you intended. You know it’s a waste and yet somehow you feel stuck.

Renew your thinking

Although I am not 100% with the Kon mari method, I do see the value in recognising that our items may not be doing us good any more. It has become that weight that you don’t need to carry around any longer, both physically and metaphorically speaking.

There are a number of methods that can be used to let go of our stuff and for items that we are no longer using I suggest these verses:

Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. Philippians 2:4

Sell that ye have, and give alms; provide yourselves bags which wax not old, a treasure in the heavens that faileth not, where no thief approacheth, neither moth corrupteth.

For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.  Luke 12:33-34

So the people asked him, saying, “What shall we do then?”He answered and said to them, “He who has two tunics, let him give to him who has none; and he who has food, let him do likewise.” Luke 3:10-11

Do not withhold good from a]those to whom it is due,
When it is in the power of your hand to do so. Proverbs 3:27

He who has pity on the poor lends to the Lord,
And He will pay back what he has given. Proverbs 19:17

distributing to the needs of the saints, givena] to hospitality. Romans 12:13

Give your stuff a new life, bless someone in the process

These verses are GREAT motivators for me when I find myself hanging on to things that are not getting used. Letting them go means that I can give them a new life, a fresh start. However the best part of this is that I get to bless someone else!

These things can bring another joy and smiles or even make their life more livable. While I am storing an item away, someone else could be using it on a regular basis. We have no idea how much difference releasing our stuff and giving to others can make.  But we know that Jesus asks up to be generous and give our extra things to others. We don’t need to hold on to items ‘just in case’. We can trust God to supply for our needs in the future.

Trust God

“Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For after all these things the Gentiles seek. For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. Mathew 6:31-32

Generosity

So as we go come into contact with those un-used items, yet again! We can ask ourselves if it would be better to give this item a new life and bless someone else in the process. Imagine the item/s being used regularly and making a real difference in someone’s life. Instead of thanking the item for it’s service (or lack of), we can thank the Lord for His provisions and generosity toward us, asking that He now bless someone else with the items that we are about to share.

And remember the words of the Lord Jesus, that He said, “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” Acts 20:35